I received a call from a dear friend of mine after she learnt of her pregnancy. She had been waiting for this soul to arrive for quite a while now. A tear of joy rolled down my eyes, even though I tried hard to contain my emotions. As we spoke further she said I want the minutest of details from you. The dos, the don’ts and whats and what nots , I want to know it all. A mother who had just learnt of her pregnancy asked an ‘oh-so-experienced’ mom for advice. To which I snapped and said – ” hey you are not ill, you don’t have to behave that way”. And that is when the thought of writing this post arrived and I am at it the very next day.
So if I were to jot down all I want to say to a mum who has just learnt of her pregnancy this is what it would be –
1 EMBRACE , EMBRACE And EMBRACE
“In a small fragile seed a great tree lurks, in a tiny gene a thinking being is shut; A little element in a little sperm, it grows and is a conqueror and a sage” – Sri Aurobindo
Your voyage to witnessing this magic has begun, buckle up, the ride could be bumpy, but it’s all worth it!
2 Be You
As I said earlier you are pregnant and not sick. I had absolutely no restrictions from my doctor about what to eat or what not, where to travel or where not, what to do or what not. When you know your baby is growing within you’d obviously not go bungee jumping. Follow your instincts and they’d direct. Discuss your health with your doc often so he can suggest you best.
3 Be at peace
Yeah, I know it is easier said than done. With a turmoil of emotions within you, with the nausea, morning sickness, with the growing size of the body and simultaneously shrinking size of the bladder you CANNOT keep calm. But guess what, we’ve got to try harder. I’d suggest avoid situations that make you angry, walk out on influence that bothers you. It’s time to treat yourself like a heroine on the Yashraj Film Set ( well, I am only imagining they are treated very very well)
4 Work everything around you, your way
I liked flowers and I wanted them around at all times. Re-do your home to have a lot of pictures of what triggers the Happy hormone in you. Be it sunset, sunrise, babies, your favourite stand up comedian or for that matter your husband.
Not all of us have an inclination towards meditation. But take time out to sit back and communicate with your inner self. Chant the name of Lord, or express gratitude to the universe, visualise birthing your baby, feel her in your arms. Set norms don’t work, discover what works Best for you.
6 Communicate with your baby
You may have got excited about the idea of talking to your baby in the womb already, but trust me it does not come naturally to all mums. I would place my hand on my womb and speak to my baby privately about how excited I was to have him, about how I felt everyday, and honestly about anything and everything under the sun.
What you eat defines your health and that of your baby too. It’s extremely important to eat a well balanced diet which includes a lot of veggies, fruits and nuts. Try and maintain a good food hygiene to keep yourself and your baby healthy. You must discuss with your doctor if he’d recommend a certain foods or refrain you from having some. At the same time eating for two is a myth. You must eat right with occasional treats in the quantity that your body needs. You’ll want to steer clear of undercooked eggs and meat, unpasteurized dairy products and juices, raw seafood, and cold deli meats to avoid ingesting bacteria that could harm your baby.
Including some form of exercise in your routine will help maintain a healthy mind, body and soul balance. Maternity yoga and kegel exercises were my choices. You could attend a class or workshops that would train you in materiality exercise.
9 Indulge Yourself
you may think you are busy now, but once the baby arrives you’ll laugh at your previous definition of busy. Treat yourself to a lunchtime manicure, spend a much-needed night out with the girls, or simply taking a quiet walk to help you relax and de-stress — and that’s good for both you and the baby.
10 Call your doctor
Being pregnant for the first time can be confusing. These are some situations that would need the attention of the doctor :
– Pain of any kind
– Strong cramps
– Contractions at 20-minute intervals
– Vaginal bleeding or leaking of fluid
– Dizziness or fainting
– Shortness of breath
– Heart palpitations
– Constant nausea and vomiting
– Trouble walking, edema (swelling of joints)
11 Swear off alcohol and any kind of drugs
For obvious reason that it is likely to reach your baby through the bloodstream.
12 See your dentist
Hormonal shifts during pregnancy can make you more susceptible to gum disease. So see your dentist for a checkup and cleaning now if you haven’t had a visit in the last six months. Don’t forget about your regular oral health: Brush, floss, and get regular dental care.
13 Prioritize your emotional health
Take care of your emotional health. Many women feel like they’re on an emotional roller coaster at one time or another during pregnancy. But if your mood swings are extreme or interfering with your daily life, you may be suffering from depression, a relatively common condition.
If you’ve been feeling low for more than two weeks and nothing seems to lift your spirits — or if you’re feeling particularly anxious — share your feelings with your caregiver so you can get a referral for professional help.
Stay as happy as you can