As a young teen, I would read popular books that encouraged connecting with the inner being. Awareness of self and beyond intrigued my naive mind. (Also because my teens were free of Facebook or Orkut).
My teenage mind began to practice visualisation, positive affirmations, sleep talking and meditation with it’s own understanding and interpretation of it. I am not sure if I was doing it “right” but I had developed a clear belief system that is deeply rooted within me even today.
One of the practises that have been a constant since that young age is affirmative sleep talking.
I‘d repeat positive affirmations to myself before bedtime, when my body is rested and my mind and soul are about to slip into a rested state. The intention of doing this is to reprogram my thought patterns to positive sound bites.
I’d envision myself teaching in an institute of my choice, I’d tell myself how calm and composed a personality I am, I’d share with the universe the qualities that I admire in my partner. From becoming a teacher to a confident one, and attracting exactly the kind of life partner I had imagined. This method has worked effectively for me.
By focusing my thoughts on uplifting ideas, I began to notice a positive pattern in my way of thinking and my outlook on life.
Affirmative Sleep Talking To Babies
After I gave birth to my son, I continued talking to him while I’d put him to sleep. The idea was to target his subconscious mind.
This has been a continuous practice ever since. There is no research or study that backs the effectiveness of sleep talking to kids. But speaking with the experience I have had, I’d suggest every mum to try this out.
Gunbir was a colic baby, I’d speak to him affirming him of good health and better sleep, later I started to slip in thoughts and words of motivation, morals, good behaviour, independence and self-confidence.
Here’s what works for us when it comes to affirmations at bedtime for Gunbir :
– A bed time routine
Babies don’t run by the clock and we are well aware of that. But since an early age, we have had a fixed time and routine of bathing and putting the lights dim at a certain time, followed by reading a book or narrating a story. At this age, after a story G shuts his eyes preparing himself to sleep, a few minutes later is when I begin to talk to him in a soft restful tone.
– Use present tense
Whether I use positive reinforcement for myself or G it is always in the present tense. I truly firmly believe it is true.
” Gunbir is a kind and well mannered boy.” “Gunbir eats well and the food he eats nourishes him”
– Avoid any negative word
The word affirmation itself means positive. Avoid use of any negative words. One must remember the idea here is to not point out faults in a child, but help him improve.
“Gunbir loves to share, he is a friendly boy” “Gunbir speaks softly and is well mannered” instead of ” Gunbir does not hit” “Gunbir does not scream and shout”
Sleep talking to your child every night will be great. But keeping it real, it may not be possible to be as consistent. Don’t be hard on yourself if you can not practice it every single night. Whenever you do, do it with a happy and positive approach.
– Choose your words
I use simple words when I am talking to my son, in a tone that I’d speak to him in when I flooded with loving emotions. I try and keep the phrases and words similar for a few weeks for Gunbir to register them. I make it a point to begin with expressing my love and support for him.
Spending time talking to your child or simply slowing down and admiring him as he sleeps is sure to calm you down and make you happier. A happy mom sure means a happy baby:)